Do you want to be a fabulous mom?
Of course you do!
But you don’t need a Gucci bag to be fabulous.
According to the dictionary, fabulous means wonderful, amazingly good, extraordinary.
How would you feel if someone was describing you like that?
I mean who in this world wouldn’t want to be fabulous?! Don’t feel intimidated.
Again, you don’t need a Rolls Royce or a personal chef to meet the expectations. But you do need some things – and you may even have them. You
just need to work on them.
In fact, it all has to do with your attitude. It has to do with your own way of making lemonade when life gives you lemons.
Now let’s get this straight: Being a mom is not easy. It’s hectic.
I am a new mom and some days I just want to cry. I just feel overwhelmed and, for the most part, I do everything by myself. It’s tough.
So, I feel you. As moms, we’re happy if we get to eat once in a day right?! That’s how motherhood goes.
Don’t get me wrong though, I’m not complaining. I’m happy to be a mom.
The second time around I had all the medical procedures done necessary for a successful pregnancy.
So here I am today enjoying my 17-month-old!
Going back to being fabulous: it is possible. Here’s what you have to do:
1. Be Confident
At 3 am when you’re cleaning up the mess from massive diarrhea your baby just had because of teething – be confident that your child is your top priority no matter what.
Be confident that there is no right or wrong way to be a mom. It’s in your instincts, as a mom, to protect and properly take care of your child your way, and not someone else’s.
Be confident that any sacrifice towards your child is worth it. So simply ignore those dark circles that you have.
2. Never Stop Learning
Whether you are Googling stuff to finish your child’s school project or stuff to help you understand what in the world that homework task is all about, you should never stop learning.
Even if it’s a brownie recipe.
Always try to improve yourself, your skills, your knowledge. As they say, knowledge is power. Invest in yourself. Play some ebooks in your car on your way to grocery shopping.
3. Pamper Yourself
Most women think of mani-pedi or massages or shopping. That’s fine. It’s in our genetics to like doing all of those.
(I just made that up.)
It’s not our genetics but who doesn’t love shopping?!
But maybe ‘pampering’ has different meanings for you. That’s also fine.
If all you want is to lay in bed with that litter box stare at your ceiling as a means of relaxation that’s also fine. If you want to sip some red wine and just don’t care about the massive destruction, known as mess caused by kids, that’s fine.
If pampering yourself means eating doughnuts without feeling guilty that’s fine.
Anything that makes you happy. You need these moments. You need to reboot yourself. You need to refuel your body and your brain somehow.
Remember: you’re not a robot. You deserve rewards too.
4. It’s Okay to Cry
I cry. Many people cry also. And just because you’re a mom and you’re expected to be tough because it just happens you need to raise a human being, it doesn’t mean you can’t cry.
Yes, you can! As many times as you want.
We all have our problems. All of us! Don’t think everybody has a perfect quiet life except you. There’s no such thing as that.
But we are perfect in the end, as it’s in this blog’s name, by being imperfect. Flaws make us human. We were not created in a lab. We have a heart. We NEED to cry to let it go.
So, mama if you feel like bursting into tears, do so! You will feel better! Crying won’t make you weaker, it will help you move forward.
Help yourself and those around you. Small things make a big difference.
Helping your child with homework obviously counts. Anything that you think it has a positive effect on someone do it, like helping your neighbor carry groceries.
Helping others without expecting a reward back is an achievement.
Many times we say: ‘Oh, I did that and she didn’t even say thank you’. I’m not saying it’s wrong, I’m saying there is an alternative to that.
Help unconditionally and feel good about it.
6. Don’t Compare Yourself With Other Moms
These are big words. I plead guilty.
This one is hard because it’s very easy to make this mistake, especially if you’re a new mom.
As a first-time mom you take everything more than seriously, if not dramatically. It’s understandable though. However, keep in mind that every child is different the same way every mom is different.
Different people, different needs, different expectations.
There’s absolutely no point to compare yourself with other moms thinking they’re better than you. It’s ok if you forgot your child’s water for the soccer game. That doesn’t make you a careless mom, that just makes normal. Normal people make mistakes. I left the grocery store without the groceries. How can you beat that?!
I think by now you figured it out and got the whole idea. Like I mentioned earlier, we’re not a Kardashian with a Rolls Royce in the garage. Most people are not even that rich or rich at all. Most people don’t even have savings.
But the point is you can’t let money dictate who you are. You are a fabulous mom and you don’t even know it!
How did you feel during your pregnancy when the baby was pushing on your bladder or you were breathing heavily or your back was hurting? Not fabulous you’ll say. That’s fine. But you survived all of that.
How was labor? Fun?
How was your child’s teething? Colic? Diaper rash?
How about when you are just exhausted from cleaning all the mess in the house or from doing the never-ending dishes?
Don’t underestimate yourself. You are stronger than you think and you’re better than you were 5 days ago.
You are a fabulous mom.